Typically, I don't dress for men.
Ok fine. Never.
Never do I dress for men.
But every once in a while, an outfit will appeal to me that's more overtly sexy than usual. Bra showing, skirt too short, open back, etc, etc. (see above)
Other times, I'll opt for more discreetly sexy looks. Oversized shirt with lace bra, heels with jeans, low buttoned oxford, red lipstick, etc, etc. (see below)
What confuses me about these urges is,
well,
the urges.
ONE: If I'm not dressing for men (and I assure you that I'm not) (unless it's subconscious, in which case, oops), what is it that makes me want to feel like I've just stolen my boyfriend's shirt, left a one-night stand, wrapped up a night of solo flirting at the bar, etc, etc?
And TWO: why, oftentimes, are these looks that I create in my head of the "ideal sexy woman" not even remotely appealing to the opposite sex? What instinct within me creates this illusion, if it's not one to garner a mate? Why do I think this obnoxious outfit is sexy, when I assume that most men wouldn't?
Why is a woman's idea of sexy oftentimes so different from a man's if the word "sexy" itself is derived from the assumption that the appearance will lead to . . . you know?
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| denim shirt, bra, skirt: Anthropologie, shoes: eBay, lacey shirt: handmedown |
Or maybe men just find any woman confident enough sexy,
in which case,
"sexy" truly is defined by the woman.
hmm..
So. Many. Questions.
in which case,
"sexy" truly is defined by the woman.
hmm..
So. Many. Questions.
Cheers.
Photos by Brian Kristoph
That is one really nice midi skirt ! The embellishment is beautiful ! To be honest, I'm a girl and to me this skirt is sexy haha, I mean it's form fitting and high waisted which allows us to show a bit of midriff... It is flattering at least.
ReplyDeleteGreat post, I really like the content of your blog in general :-) xx
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You look amazing!
ReplyDeleteGuys are simple beings. At least when it comes to what gets them going. I guess that's the short answer.
ReplyDeleteThat skirt is absolutely fab, though.
I think Dudes all find different things sexy - but unlike women they dont tend to focus on one feature particularly - they might notice the cleavage but they just think "hot chick" where as women are stuck on details...?
ReplyDeleteAs for wanting to look sexy sometimes it's probably a hormone thing - it's always a hormone thing ;-)
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Well, as a man I think your tops in your photos look sexy but your skirt looks a bit like stained glass windows in a church - which is a sort of turn off. Churches aren't sexy.
ReplyDeleteJust being honest here, since you asked!! Not rude. I think your style is good usually.
Most guys don't pay attention to fashion. If you want to become sexy to guys, the closer you are to being naked is what will make you sexy to them.
However you have to think about whether a person who only cares about your looks is the person you want to meet...
-Matt