Confidence is tangible.
It's enviable, and seemingly unattainable, and essential to our everyday lives.
Faking confidence is the key to success,
and being fooled by others' faked confidence is the key to downfall.
So what is confidence?
Why is confidence so hard to genuinely achieve, yet so expected of others? Why do we judge our peers upon their apparent confidence, when we ourselves are continually struggling with embodying it on a daily basis?
We all know that it's impossible to be 100% confident in 100% of our endeavors, but why do we have to pretend that we are?
What would happen if we were all honest about our various hesitations? Even in unfamiliar settings.
Would it be inevitably interpreted as a sign of weakness? Or could it do more?
Maybe admitting that you were feeling incredibly awkward at the beginning of a first date would open up a whole new playing field for your true personalities to shine through.
Maybe letting your boss know that you felt uncomfortable with the new hierarchy, schedule change, etc, etc would highlight your thoughtfulness, rather than your weakness.
Or maybe an attraction to confidence is so inherently ingrained in our psyche & physiology as humans that it is literally required of us at this point in order to allure others.
Maybe we can't ever do anything can change that.
|shirt: American Apparel, pants: Love, Zooey via iona, shoes: Zara|
Confidence & fashion are so incredibly intertwined - it makes me wonder:
What would fashion be like if confidence weren't put on such a pedestal?
Photos by Shoaib